Ma Vie d'Autrefois, Ou est-ce Encore la Même ?

Monday, October 30, 2006

Monday Morning

A friend’s email was a nice surprise to greet me upon my arrival to work this morning.

Morgan's connection with the SPCA and Marine Mammal Center’s rescue services and personnel last week was really cool. It was exciting watching her interactions. She's already just been biding her time until she can be a junior guide at the Aquarium. And she's too young to volunteer for these guys, either, but she's not too young to keep her eye out and do what she can in the world. I am fortunate; both of my children have developed into staunch environmentalists. Mikaël and I had the most interesting IM conversation on the topic this weekend. He is convinced that, by 2012, some environmental cataclysm will cause "the end of the world as we know it." I told him that that isn't necessarily so terrible, for the planet and for life forms as a whole. He actually thinks that the changes in question will be resultant of something that he thinks will happen in 2012. 2012 is the key date for him, as he says that Nostradamus, the Bible Code, and the Mayan writings all point to 2012. I don't know about some of what he thinks, but the basic premise is interesting. We also talked about the influence of a possible pandemic, for example, of bird flu.

I personally have come to believe, between conversations, reading, and reflection, that pandemics are nature's way. And, while I am grateful to have modern medical care, I think that there is something inherently wrong with it. I am hesitating even as type those words because my perspective is little more than a feeling or impression in that I am not sure how to translate my uneasiness with medicine into words that make logical sense for modern western man. I'll try to explain it better, later.

I think that I am trying to strike a balance, at least in my own mind, as far as nature and medicine are concerned. I know that I don't want to just lie down and die. Not yet. But I also know that there will come a time when that is right. I am glad that the medical science existed to cure me of the illnesses I had in the 1990s, not to mention the terrible pain I was in, and all the time... And I was happy that they could deal with my mother's breast cancer and my father's skin cancer.

But, when my Mom had ALS, at first it was alright, when the medical care she received helped her function and feel better. But, once she couldn't walk, talk, swallow, etc., she was nothing but a brain and fingers - she could communicate via typing, and her mind was fully functional, but even she was done with her life, satisfied with her experience, and wanting to let go. Her husband didn't want to let her. He wasn't ready. In the weeks before she died, she told me that she just wanted it all to be done with, which is why she chose not to get a respirator like her husband wanted her to do. She had become a Catholic. She and I had had a number of discussions about spirituality, the fundamental nature of human existence, that type of light-hearted stuff... She had had visions in church, that Jesus on the crucifix was alive and beckoning to her. She wanted an audience with Pope John Paul II, who had passed away by then. She had righted the wrongs she had done in her life, and made peace with almost everyone she had had trouble with. She was tired. She was trapped in her body. She wanted out. And she was afraid that her husband and the doctors would take action to keep her alive against her will, and against nature's will. Fortunately, she died too quickly for that to happen. And I think that she was onto something, there. It almost sounds cruel, or inhuman, but I honestly believe that there comes a point where it is best to let God/nature/science take His/her/its course, and stop fighting.

Back to the duck rescue… I did most of the duck interaction, as we had the dogs with us. Morgan held on to them and got the stuff from Adventures by the Sea, while I kept him away from the other people and critters that were interested. Actually, I think it was a she, but I don't know when ducks get their definitive coloring. When Morgan came back with the box, I picked the duck up, because, especially with the dogs there, it was easier for me to do it than to explain it to Morgan. Next time, I'll let her, though. I put the duck in the box, and then I took the dogs, and Morgan held the duck. When the ladies got there, the Marine Mammal Center had already arrived. Morgan had already spoken to them, and then we waited for the SPCA. Watching the sea lion rescue was interesting too. Fortunately, he did not seem to be too far gone to be saved. He put up quite a fight, I must say. Morgan was extremely excited. Her main concern, once he was in the box, was why they don't have a lift on their truck... she's a practical one, that girl! I’ll put the videos on here tonight after work.

Thursday, October 19, 2006

Je commence à me sentir mieux

Things are STARTING to go a little better.
I am not quite as panicked, and slightly less pessimistic.

Je commence à me sentir un petit peu mieux. Je ne suis pas aussi paniquée, et un peu moins pessimiste. Je suis allée faire une première session de thérapie psychologique. Enfin, dans une « heure » de 50 minutes, un ne peut pas faire grande chose, mais rien que d’y aller, de vider mon cœur d’une partie de sa peine, me donne l’impression d’être d’avantage maîtresse de moi-même, de mes sentiments, de mon destin… et ça remonte le moral un peu. Pas trop encore, même pas assez, mais un peu. C’est déjà ça, n’est-ce pas ? Je pense que je vais commencer à aller à Al Anon. En parlant l’autre jour, en récitant l’histoire d’alcoolisme et de maladies dépressives familiales et de ma propre vie, je n’ai que commencé à me rendre compte à tel point l’alcool, l’alcoolisme, la dépression, et l’abus a touché ma vie. Je pense qu’il est bien temps de faire quelque chose pour adresser ce problème, une fois pour toutes !

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Keep Passing the Open Windows

Insights gained from The Hotel New Hampshire:

Everything is a fairy tale.
There are no happy endings.
Sorrow floats.

And, most importantly, keep passing the open windows; stop at a window, and you may jump out.

Monday, October 16, 2006

Blogthings

Go figure! My "Inner European" is French!

Your Inner European is French!
Smart and sophisticated.You have the best of everything - at least, *you* think so.


And I am mostly left-brained...

You Are 70% Left Brained, 30% Right Brained
The left side of your brain controls verbal ability, attention to detail, and reasoning.Left brained people are good at communication and persuading others.If you're left brained, you are likely good at math and logic.Your left brain prefers dogs, reading, and quiet.
The right side of your brain is all about creativity and flexibility.Daring and intuitive, right brained people see the world in their unique way.If you're right brained, you likely have a talent for creative writing and art.Your right brain prefers day dreaming, philosophy, and sports.
Are You Right or Left Brained?



My animal personality is
Your Animal Personality

Your Power Animal: Eagle

Animal You Were in a Past Life: Whale

You are active, a challenger, and optimistic.
Hard-working, you are always working towards a set goal.
The Animal Personality Test

I am 55% Normal:
You Are 55% Normal

While some of your behavior is quite normal...
Other things you do are downright strange
You've got a little of your freak going on
But you mostly keep your weirdness to yourself


My Geek Profile:
Your Geek Profile:

Academic Geekiness: Highest
Internet Geekiness: Moderate
Music Geekiness: Moderate
Fashion Geekiness: Low
Geekiness in Love: Low
General Geekiness: Low
Gamer Geekiness: None
Movie Geekiness: None
SciFi Geekiness: None


You Belong in Amsterdam

A little old fashioned, a little modern - you're the best of both worlds. And so is Amsterdam.
Whether you want to be a squatter graffiti artist or a great novelist, Amsterdam has all that you want in Europe (in one small city).


What Your Soul Really Looks Like

You are a warm hearted and open minded person. It's easy for you to forgive and forget.

You are a grounded person, but you also leave room for imagination and dreams. You feet may be on the ground, but you're head is in the clouds.

You believe that people see you for how you are, not how you look. But deep down, you know that's not exactly true.

Your near future is calm, relaxing, and pretty much what you want. And it's something you've been anticipating for a while now.

For you, love is all about caring and comfort. You couldn't fall in love with someone you didn't trust.

Search Results III

Mikaël is one-of-a-kind.
Mikaël is a very dear friend.
Mikaël is moderately sensitive.
Mikaël is a rare wooden wreck.
Mikaël is a member of the team.
Mikaël is very fluent at his craft.
Mikaël is hiding in his apartment.
Mikaël is interested in the common.
Mikaël is known by many in Atlanta.
Mikaël is the guardian of the Holy Grail.
Mikaël is credited alongside another name.
Mikaël is the cofounder of this organization.
Mikaël is played by the handsome 22-year old.
Mikaël is a tempestuous struggling young artist.
Mikaël is a member of the executive committee.
Mikaël is usually seen carrying The Book of Chaos.
Mikaël is covered by fine sediment of organic origin.
Mikaël is passionate about the potential of biotechnology.
Mikaël is pure class and an exciting prospect for the future.
Mikaël is creative, unique, deeply conscientious, and professional.

Sketch of Morgan

Sketch of Morgan
Originally uploaded by NanaP.

Morgan had this sketch done at Knott's Berry Farm during her fall break there this past week.

Gotta' tell 'ya, it's worth a journey to LA to see this sketch artist. She did a beautiful job at capturing my daughter's spirit!

Monday, October 09, 2006

Sinking Hearts of Fear

Well, Morgan will be leaving shortly for their vintage limo ride to SJC. She and her friend and her friend's family are all very excited. I just dropped off something to Sh at the gym in Seaside, and even he is excited. He almost made me cry though, talking about Sp. He called the trip to Disneyland Sp's "last hurrah." That gave me a weird creepy chilling feeling.

The last time I saw my mother, in June, 2005, after a year and a half long series of frequent trips to Minnesota, as I said goodbye to her, our eyes met, lingered a little longer than usual, and then I had to get going. Some friends of mine from high school and I were all getting together to celebrate our fortieth birthdays with an evening cruise on Lake Minnetonka. My friend Dawn, who had organized the cruise, had also just gotten married, in a gorgeous wedding in Las Vegas, and she and her husband, our friend, Janelle, and I, all rode up to the lake in a limo. I had to get to Dawn's house before the limo left. So, anyway, as I looked into my mother's eyes, I knew that I would never see her alive, again. And, as she looked into mine, she knew it, too. I went on the cruise, came home the next day, and was planning my next trip to MN for about 5 or 6 weeks later, because my Mom had had a lot of visits and was tired. Of course, she died before I made that next trip. The trp to her funeral was my last. I don't know for sure that I will ever go to Minnesota, again. But that's a different story...

Sp is checking into Lucille Packard on the 30th,undergoing ten days of chemotherapy, one day of rest, and then getting a bone marrow transplant on November 9. Sh told me of his fear of losing his little boy.

I truly hope that his fear proves to be unfounded.

Sunday, October 08, 2006

Breaking Through the Darkness

La vue du ciel, des nuages, de la lune, et de la lumière qui réussit à percer le noir, de ma fenetre le soir où je l’ai rencontré...

January 14, 2006



Je regardais mes photos sur flickr en pensant au devoirs de Afterclass et d'!Etudes!, et j'ai remarqué la date.

Things are going a bit better 'round here these days. I am slowly but surely dealing with my demons and regaining the strength I had lost for a while there.

Morgan is going over to her friend, C's, house this afternoon. They are leaving for the San Jose airport tomorrow morning, by limousine, and flying down to LA for C's brother S's Make a Wish trip to Disneyland and meeting Pooh Bear.

Last year, they all drove down there for fall break, and invited Morgan, too. That way, Morgan and C can do the older kid things, and S and can do little kid things with their parents, without anybody getting unduly whiney or bored.

They are going to Disneyland at least a couple of times, to breakfast with Goofy and some of the other characters, Knott's Berry Farm, California Adventure, Medieval Times, and I don't know what all else. They'll be gone through to next Sunday, when they fly back.

Morgan's extraordinarily excited. She loves C and C's family, and they treat her like one of their own. S doesn't even know that they're going to Disneyland, so he'll really be thrilled. I'm only sorry that the circumstances aren't happier this year. But it's really cool that they are all able to do this, and even cooler that they thought to include Morgan.

On a different note, I finished Ishmael. I didn't love the ending as much as the beginning, but I think the message is insightful and empowering.

J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi

Du coup je regarde Vivement Dimanche avec Drucker sur TV5 Amérique. Il y a eu aujourd’hui Alain Souchon qui a chanté J’aimais mieux quand c’était toi. Quelle jolie chanson !! Quelle poésie !

J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi
Quand sur ma bouche tu mettais tes doigts
En disant "Tais-toi"
"Mets ta main là et tais-toi"
J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi
J'aimais mieux toi

On va aux îles anglo-normandes
Et je leur fais arpenter les landes
À ces petites soeurs
On dort à l'hôtel près du phare
Le papier peint, le grand couloir
Où t'avais peur
On revient en bateau par Granville
Comme tu aimais
Je fais toujours beaucoup l'imbécile
Oui mais
J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi...

Je fais toujours beau parleur, baratineur
Que j'ai passé le Raz Blanchard en dériveur
Allongés sur le dos
On écoute chanter Dido
Au milieu des fleurs
Pour les tendresses épidermique
Je m'évertue, je m'applique
Et ça va
On me fait des baisers dans le cou
Mais je pense à toi beaucoup
Tu vois
J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi...

Elles ont aussi des avantages
Elles ont des jolis visages
Et tout ce que chez toi j'aimais
L'été où j'étais l'invité
De la principauté de ta beauté
Je passe des heures à la fenêtre
À regarder le vent peut-être
Y'en a même qui me disent "Je t'aime"
Moi je le dis jamais
Mets ta main là et tais-toi
J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi...

J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi
Quand sur ma bouche tu mettais tes doigts
En disant "Tais-toi"
"Mets ta main là et tais-toi"
J'aimais mieux quand c'était toi
J'aimais mieux toi

Alain Souchon