Logical Fallacies

I don't understand things sometimes. I try, but I just don't get it. The hardest part to understand, even beyond the notion of drunks being selfish, is why would people bother to lie to other people, especially to the point where lies define their lives.

It seems that, for some people, alcohol replaces human companionship and interaction. Which, although I may realize that that's what happens, I don't understand.

To me, there is logical fallacy of some kind in seeking comfort in an altered state of consciousness, especially one that causes the out-of-control thing to be worse, and especially when that altered state inflicts so much damage on other people....

It's fine and dandy to say that those people are allowing themselves to be affected - to me, that's a cop out. If they don't even know the problem is happening, and genuinely care about the alcoholic person, and believe in their lies, for the pure and simple reason that they don't know they're lies, then how in the **** can they be allowing themselves to be victimized?! It;s not a matter of codependency or enabling, it's a matter of not knowing, of being fooled, of being human, and of having compassion.